Understand? (Part Two)

This brings me to the second part of my thoughts. Relaying what is on my mind to others is a hard task, indeed. I don't even know why. I think, perhaps, I'm exaggerating a little more than I should, but I have many people telling me that I don't explain things well enough and, sometimes, that I downright stink at speaking. I can sometimes bumble up my sentences, or start explaining something and then backtrack to explain something that happens before that. This can exasperate people at times. Why? Mostly because they're impatient.
Let me explain something here, it's not normally our fault that we don't speak well. Yes, we can better ourselves (oh, and I do, trust me), but be patient with these people. If you don't understand something they're explaining, simply say, "I don't understand."
I think that peoples' brains work different ways so I could relay something that makes perfect sense to me but to the person I'm relaying it to it could be Greek, for all they knew. It doesn't mean either of us is stupid, just that the bridge of communication is broken down and we're tossing words across the chasm of confusion, hoping we'll get our point across. Isn't it funny? We both speak English, but we still don't understand!

If you happen to come across a person such as I've described, please do not tell them that they stink at speaking. This will make them feel badly. Unless, of course, you feel you should..
Instead, attempt to communicate, things can't be so complicated that you can't take a few minutes out of your busy schedule to ask someone to repeat something. Giving up on understanding is a lazy cop-out. Just try to understand. Put forth the effort toward another human being. I'm sure we all have some scrap of humanity left in us that this shouldn't be too hard an exercise.
My best friend is so great about this, at least with me. She's very patient through what I'm saying and if she doesn't get it she says so and then I try to explain in a different way.
When you know someone well enough you become accustomed to their thinking processes, and then that makes it easier for you to explain things in the best way for them to understand.

Oftentimes people mistake what I say as something offensive. Before I know it, they're getting upset with me because of something I said that I did not mean, in anyway, to be taken as offensive!  This is another fault in a lot of people, assumptions are made when you don't fully understand what is being said. You fill in the blanks by yourself and come to a conclusion you aren't happy with.
Clarification is your best friend! You don't know the person's motives behind what they're saying--unless you ask them, of course, which involves communication--so you ought not assume that they're all wrong. Ask them to repeat what they just said, ask them to clarify. Sometimes there are no hidden meanings and what the person said is exactly what they meant. Women will have a harder time accepting this than men. If you could take a few extra words and ask a person what they meant -- without hostility -- it could put out a lot of sparks that could start fires.

Now, don't ask questions that you don't want the answers to! That's an entirely different topic that I may or may not expound upon in some sort of future. But I just wanted to say it before I ended. In all of this clarifying, you're usually having them clarify something which they want clarified. But I will be talking about THAT later.
Anyway, I think I'll close here. Except it's not a real close because you'll still have more to read down there vvvv notes that I wrote in the middle of writing this and the first part. Lol, I know, I'm weird sometimes. Well, tata!


So. I just stepped out and went for a little jog. I dragged my brother on a jog. And jog jog jogged. Yes.. I've downgraded to the term "jogging". I just didn't think I was fit for the title of "runner" anymore. I definitely have to work up to that status again.
But I did good jogging! And then there's the backwards hill, it's my favorite part! I walk up it backwards, boy do you get a great workout doing that! More things to think of on my walk: There is this strange noise outside my house--not right outside, more like down the hill, over the other houses, down the mountain and near the highway--or even by the train tracks. My point is.. there's a NOISE. It's fairly often, but I don't know how often and I just can't pinpoint what it is. It's the cross between a Saint Bernard barking (but more like a small RUFF, than a true bark) and an old car's throttle being revved. But a short rev. And then it also sounds like a shifter grinding between gears. So, can you place that sound? Cuz I can't. I've noticed it about twice a day. At night when I lie in bed with the window open (because it's hot) I've noticed it about three times.
Yes, it's strange. I only mention it now because I heard it again on my walk.
Also. I thought up an interesting sentence.

Dear Deer, today I saw a beer by a bear that dare share! Where? Do you care.
Now that you've been subjected to my senselessness, I will continue on with my original point. Only I will continue up there so that you will come to this part at the end of my serious talk so as to not disrupt the flow of your thoughts.
And tata again!